Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Thoughts on Marriage

Things are about to get real deep y'all. Today I am talking marriage.

I'd be willing to bet that a handful of y'all thought about the day that you'd marry you husband since you were a little bitty girl. I certainly did. I remember thinking about marriage when I was 4 years old. It's a part of the "American Dream" after all.

As a little back story, I grew up with 4 parents my whole life: my mom, my dad, my stepmom, and my stepdad. This seemed normal to me. Ever since I was old enough to understand 4 parents isn't exactly "typical", I started on my journey to find out "What is Marriage?"

So, around 13 years old (when I began "dating"), I started to form thoughts in my head about what marriage is and what marriage is not. And lucky for me, once my hubby and I got married, we shared the same beliefs. Thank goodness for that.

Maybe you're curious as to what my "findings" were.

Very plainly, marriage is this: a covenant between two people to become one person. Always putting each other first, no matter what trials and tribulations present itself. Such a relationship cannot be broken by any man. My beliefs stem directly from the creator of marriage: God. Below are my favorite verses of all time.

So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Ephesians 5:31

To say I'm against divorce would be a huge understatement. It's just not something I believe in. You can probably imagine that my claws come out when someone demeans the sacredness of my marriage. Oh yes, claws come out. But that's just how much I respect my marriage and my husband.

I just want to leave you with this: if you have a different philosophy about marriage, that's great! Whatever works for your marriage ought to be respected. I just expect the same in return.

I'm linking up with Shay today!

12 comments:

  1. Love this post!!!! So glad you and Ross are such cute little love birds!! Thank goodness we both married people with the same beliefs we have!

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  2. So perfect! T & I both have divorced parents and are VERY focused on the fact that this is it for us. It makes me want to knock out people who don't take it seriously and just want the wedding.

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  3. I totally agree with this post. We went into our marriage this way as well and it definitely takes you through the harder times when you have decided we better make this work and thrive because there's no turning back!

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  4. This is great! Although I too do not in any way condone divorce I do believe that people sometimes rush only to find out that things just won't work. Abuse does happen and you shouldn't be "stuck" with that person because you made a promise to never quit. On the flip side of that, I believe if you make a commitment to get married you're promising to never give up or walk out when things get tough. You're there to love and cherish someone who is always working to help you become a better person. Marriage is something I look forward too and the fact that you and me have similar values on marriage excites me :)

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  5. I love this post, too. In fact, I hate marriage jokes for that reason. I feel strongly that it's not to be mocked. One time in church, a lesson was being given to the girls age 16-18 (in my church, the youth have a special one hour block on Sundays where they are taught specific lessons by age/gender). The lady was teaching about making good use of time and not wasting it. Spending time wisely. She quoted the scripture about cleaving to your husband and she said, "Do you know what it means to cleave something? It means to hang onto it for dear life." It struck me when she said that and I so agree.

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  6. I totally agree! Thanks for linking up today!

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  7. Good reminder for me, considering I'm getting married in 9 days!!! But I definitely agree. There is not one ounce in me that has divorce as a back up plan. I realize marriage is going to be hard, but that's ok. I'm ready for the challenge!

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  8. You nailed it..the best part is when you decide to start a family you will get to see the two of you become one..literally in one tiny miracle! :)

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  9. I love this post sweet girl & I could not agree more with it.

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  10. I love this post! KC and I both TRULY believe whole heartedly "Til death do us part" we don't believe in divorce. & we also believe in the TRUE meaning of marriage as you stated above. I hate when someone gets married because it's easy or they'll get more money. NO. That is not what marriage is about and that is why it took KC and I so long to even get engaged let alone married.

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  11. Loved this post girl and I am right there with you 100%!!

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