Sunday, June 30, 2013

What is Stalking?

As bloggers, we're all exposed to having personal information out on the web. But it's all in the name of meeting awesome people who you can build friendships with. I have even met a blogger before. She's sorta my blogger BFF.

Anyways, I've told y'all a few times (here, here, and here) that I actually have in-real-life stalkers. These are two people that I know personally, but they continue to obsess over me. It's actually getting to the point where I'm slightly worried that this will go on for the rest of my life.

I was searching the internet to hopefully identify what stalking is exactly. I did find the perfect website too. Y'all may have heard of it before; it's called LoveIsRespect.Org.

When I found this page, I felt so much better. How my IRL stalkers are acting is pretty much by the books. This means that they are your typical stalker. Here are a few examples of how my stalkers act. I took this information directly from that site.

1. Send you unwanted text messages, letters, emails and voicemails. - What's strange is one of my stalkers will actually go through stages. Sometimes we (my husband and I) won't hear from them for a couple of weeks, but then all of a sudden, they pick back up. And usually it's more aggressively than the time before.
2. Use social networking sites and technology to track you. - Of course this is the big one. Both of my stalkers are on my blog multiple times per day. As you may or may not know, I have a way to track who is reading my blog. I can tell which links they click on (within my blog) and also tell if they went to the "comments" feature on my posts. One of the stalkers even attempted to add me on Twitter and couldn't believe it when we (my husband and I) didn't accept their request. This shows that they are delusional.
3. Spread rumors about you via the internet or word of mouth. - Stalker 1 & 2 know each other, and they communicate to each other about me. They have been known to create entirely false information or fabricate stories for their own benefit. This is a sure sign of mental illness. One of the stalkers even spreads rumors to her mommy and daddy about me. This stalker is the one with daddy-issues.
4. Call your employer or professor. - I actually had to warn every one in the building at my work about the situation between my stalkers and myself. I found myself constantly worried that maybe they would randomly show up, or even call my work place. One day I came to work, and one stalker had tracked my work e-mail address and sent me an e-mail. I was actually really surprised. I work for the state of Texas, and work e-mails are tracked and stored in a system. I did warn my colleagues about this communication attempt and am planning to report it to authorities if it happens again. My husband is also aware that they may attempt to show up at his place of employment too. Luckily, they have high security at his building. You can't even access the elevator without certain passes.

Why am I writing this?

Because if you believe you may have a stalker, you should take action and not wait around. I deleted various social networking sites, changed my phone number entirely, and even told both stalkers, "leave me alone." But they are persistent, as most stalkers are. Be careful and always go to the police if it gets bad enough.


  1. I went through similar stuff in the past. Hopefully your stalkers give it up and leave you alone. I know that this is a very stressful situation. Hang in there..I hope you have a great Sunday!

  2. Wow! Can't believe this kind of stuff happens! Crazy and a little scary. Stay safe girl!!

  3. I also went through something somewhat similar... my old roommate got a hold of my facebook password and actually read ALL of my facebook messages to other people. she was doing this for about a year before I found out. And then she would go post on her twitter account about me. I almost got the police involved after she sent me a creepy text from a fake number :/

  4. I went through something similar as well, with an ex-bf in 08 and 09. Thankfully that was a really long time ago and he has long since stopped, but I will occasionally be reminded of it, or hear a noise late at night when I'm home alone and become terrified. I read an Ann Rule crime book and the killer reminded me of him and I had nightmares for a week that he found out where I live now. Be safe!!

  5. That is terrible! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this on a constant basis! Some people really are sick in the head & need a lot of help!

  6. Holy moley! Your stalkers need to get a life, forizzle.
    Seriously, LADIES if you're reading this leave Allison alone, you're too much to handle and 'ain't nobody got time for that'!
    Get 'em girl! xo!

    1. Believe it or not, one of the stalkers did see this comment on July 5th. She even clicked on your profile and went to your blog. Yikes. Let me know if she tries to contact you!

  7. I was just scrolling through your blog, looking for your 4th of July outfits post to get ideas of what to wear on Thursday haha, & I saw this post... Why haven't they gotten the clue yet?! Seriously, they know it's them you're talking about. They must live some sad lives.

  8. That is so scary! I am sorry you are having to go through this!

  9. I am still just amazed that they are continuing to stalk you! How in the world have they not learned yet?! SO ridiculous! I pray that this doesn't go on forever... it's no fun for you to have to worry about it!

  10. I am going through something similar at the moment. I find it extremely stressful and upsetting. I have kindly asked this person twice to leave me and my family alone. It stops for a little while and suddenly this person pops up again. (even after being blocked). i've kept some unwanted mail, just incase…

    I hope that it soon will stop for you (and for me).

    Take care!