Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Recap: First Wedding Anniversary (2012)

My husband and I are just a couple of weeks away from celebrating two years of marriage. The first year and the second year have been quite a bit different from one another. And I can't wait to share all of that with you. But until then, here's a recap from our first year of marriage. 

Keep in mind, this post was written a year ago.
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On October 1, 2012, we celebrated our first anniversary as a married couple. We went to dinner at The Range in Salado and then exchanged gifts. We went with the “paper” theme for gifts. Here’s some more info in case you’re confused. “Tradition says that your first wedding anniversary is called a Paperversary. You are supposed to exchange simplistic gifts made of paper; like a sentimental card or notebook, a printed picture or a small paper sculpture. The reasoning behind this tradition is a little confusing, but here is the gist of what I’ve found out: The first year of marriage is supposedly the hardest. A young couple who is struggling to make ends meet, while trying to build a strong and solid relationship, home and family foundation all at the same time. Today, it is common for couples to live together before marrying and it is even more common for couples to wait until they are financially stable before they jump into a marriage. However, regardless of how long a couple has been dating, living together, or known one another, their first wedding anniversary is both a sacred, and special one. It is an anniversary of new beginnings, new bonds and new feelings – because no matter how you slice it, things ARE different once you get married.” I liked that quote. I got it from this site.
I got Ross a bible with his name embossed on it, a print out of important dates, and took him on a date in the backyard. Basically a picnic. He got me a book about parenthood and pre-planning. I thought it was actually genius of him. This first year has been amazing but one day we’re going to start a family together; him and I. And we want to be prepared. What a wonderful husband. Other than exchanging paper gifts, we ate cake and watched our full-length wedding video. The baker that made our wedding cake also made our anniversary cake.
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Now, I’m no expert on marriage, but I can tell you what I’ve personally learned in the first year of being married.
Marriage feels 100% different than dating or being engaged. Once you say your vows on that special day, something changes. Something amazing. Here’s the best way I can put it into words: God created marriage as a covenant. When you date or are engaged, you aren’t yet apart of it. Once you say your vows and commit yourself to one another officially, you have a bond that cannot be broken. I could go on and on about this, but I will spare you. Just know that everything changes whenever you get married. It’s nothing like the number of years you dated prior.
It is okay to go to bed upset with each other. I know a lot of people think that you should make up before falling asleep, but at nighttime people are much more emotional and less rational. I would rather go to sleep and then mend things in the morning. I know my philosophy may not be popular, but that’s why every marriage is different.
My husband cooks way better than I do. I make some mean toast and butter (sometimes strawberry jelly) but it doesn’t compare to his food. His mashed potatoes are delish in all ways possible and everything that he cooks I end up loving. I’d be happy if he was the cook the rest of our lives. But I know that I’ll eventually have to learn.

I am dependent on my husband’s presence to fall asleep at night. I tend to go to bed before Ross does. Even with the quick cuddle sesh and smooches, I can only partially fall asleep. But once he hits the pillow himself, I can fall into a deeper sleep. Not sure what that’s all about. Maybe I’m still a lil scared of the dark at my age? Perhaps. But perhaps I just feel more comfortable with him by my side.
You’re on the same team. Ross and I have gone through some tricky times this past year but the constant has been that we’re on the same team. He is 1,000% on my side just like I’m on his side. And because some people don’t like that, we’ve both been forced to exclude people from our life. We may’ve lost some relationships, but we’ve also formed some new relationships. When one door closes, another one opens!
Be on the same page. If you don’t know how your spouse feels about something, ask them! This has been the most useful skill that I’ve learned in one year of marriage. I’m a communicator. If I don’t like something, I talk about it. If I don’t understand something, I ask about it. If I like something, I show it.
Being a newlywed is like experiencing love twice. When you’re dating, you love each other. When you’re engaged, you love each other. But when you’re married, the feelings just rush back like it’s the first time you’ve ever felt them before! (Every time I watch our wedding video I cry because the feelings rush back again!) When Ross and I were on our honeymoon, I felt butterflies again like no one’s business. And when he called me, “Mrs. Skinner” every morning I was on Cloud 9. SOOO cheesy, I know. But it’s totally true.

To be continued...
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All that being said, I can't wait to share what I've learned in our second year of marriage! I am also SUPER excited for our anniversary pictures. EEK. Y'all, they're gonna be presh! I can feel it.

10 comments:

  1. Cute anniversary pics, how fun! You had some good advice, and after being married a little over a year now, I for sure agree that it's important to be a team together!

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  2. This is EXACTLY what I needed to read before walking down the aisle in a few weeks!!! I can't wait to experience this!

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  3. I bet the 2nd year went by really fast, too! I totally agree that being married feels totally different than just being 'together'....not yet married. It's a very fun thing and congrats on your upcoming 2nd anniversary!

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  4. Why are y'all so cute?!?!?! Cannot wait to see this years pictures!

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  5. I love this recap of the first year! I am the same way about falling asleep next to my husband. It just feels right with him there :)
    Love the pics and can't wait to see the new anniversary pics!

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  6. I love your pictures! You had a great location and photographer! Nowhere around here like that unforunately.

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  7. Ecks! I absolutely LOVE your anniversary pictures! When are you doing your 2nd year photos?! KC and I are getting ours done THIS SATURDAY! ohemgee I just got so excited when I looked at the calender!

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  8. Gypsy Pearl Studio Loved doing your 1 Year anniversary pictures!

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    1. Hey Amy!!! Yes, we absolutely loved our first anniversary pictures too :) You were so awesome to work with!

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