Thursday, April 3, 2014

Fertility Updates

I had never been so anxious for 8AM. Yesterday morning, we had a doctor appointment with my regular fertility doctor. We scheduled the appointment to get some answers to our questions regarding why the heck we're not pregnant yet. We are absolutely 100% doing the baby dance at the right time. Let me put that out there. Second thing, I have never been more stress-free than I am right now; so we're done talking about stress. It's time to talk about the facts. Here's the low down:

Since we're still not pregnant after 1.5 years of trying, we only have a 3% chance of getting preggo each month. That is by all accounts LOW!!!! Scary low, in fact. The doctor said this could be due in part to one of two things:

1. My Fallopian Tube does not pick up my eggs once released AND/OR
2. My hubby's sperm aren't able to swim as fast as they should be able to

These two things aren't a "forever" thing - it could change easily next month. Hypothetically speaking, if my Fallopian Tube just decided to never start picking up my eggs in the past, it doesn't mean that it'll always be that way. Same with my hubby's sperm. Just because they may not have been good swimmers for the past year & half doesn't mean they'll always be that way. That being said, there's no way to guarantee it'll change; nor is there anything that either of us can do about it physically or mentally.

What does that mean? Treatment should be considered. It all boils down to stats and money.

Clomid: Increases our chances of conceiving to 6%. Roughly $10 - the least expensive option. I've done this before and the medication has responded beautifully to my body. I did this prior to my endometriosis being cleared up.The medication causes my body to create more eggs each month, in hopes that sperm have a better chance of meeting one. But assuming my tubes are not picking up the egg, or perhaps my hubby's sperm isn't swimming properly, Clomid will not help change that fact. This means that even IF a egg can go up my tubes, it may not be fertilized with a sperm. Or, even IF the egg and sperm meet, my tubes may not be picking it up.

IUI: Increases our chances of conceiving to 11%. Roughly $900. The basics of the procedure: doctors take my hubby's sperm, clean it, and stick it inside my body with the best swimming sperm. They put it in the right area in hopes that the sperm meet an egg, and then hopefully the egg will be picked up by my Fallopian Tubes. If paired with Clomid, there is even more chances of sperm & egg meeting. Again though, like Clomid, if there's something up with my hubby's sperm not swimming or my tubes not picking up the egg, this is pointless.

IVF: Increases our chances of conceiving to 50%. Roughly $9000. (Notice the extra zero.) They put me on meds to increase the amount of eggs that my body produces. They put me under anesthesia to retrieve each egg. They take my hubby's sperm and insert them into the egg. Then after watching the egg/sperm combo for 5 days, they will insert the fertilized egg directly into my uterus. Then, it's only a matter of the fertilized egg attaching to my wall. Several fertilized eggs can come of the procedure, and of those not used (generally only 1-2 eggs are put back into the woman), they can be frozen and saved for a later time.

We have a lot to think about.

At this point, I feel like IVF is our best option. Clearly, it's also the most expensive option which makes me feel a little nauseous. But really... maybe this is how I'm supposed to get pregnant? God allows things like this to happen every day - what if this is supposed to be my journey?

13 comments:

  1. Before you move full speed ahead - how did they arrive at the 3% number? Are they speculating on your tubes and/or your husband's sperm? I/we had both the test to determine whether your tubes are open for eggs (an HSG), and they should also do one or more semen analyses to arrive at a conclusion on what is going on with your husband's part of the equation. My insurance covered a lot of the HSG test, though it didn't cover much else. I hate this for you :( I am happy to talk more about it "offline" if you want to sometime. It's pretty fresh.

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  2. i'm so sorry - that is so overwhelming and so hard to decide how to move forward. I know how frustrating it is to not be able to get pregnant the "normal" way. My husband and I did IUI twice and then IVF - i remember those first many options and feeling so many different emotions. praying that you guys feel at peace with whatever option you pick and that your sweet baby comes soon! if you ever have any questions or just want to vent feel free to email me! i know it helped me a lot to find others who had gone through the same thing!

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  3. Praying for you sweet girl. I don't know if I have told you already, but a dear friend struggled with unexplained infertility for about 2+ years....she did IUI and they had a precious baby boy in December. Praying for you sweet girl.

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  4. This is just speaking generally and as someone with NO experience in this arena whatsoever...but just the way I am, and with the facts as you presented them, I can definitely see why you're leaning toward IVF. But like you said you have a lot to think about, and a lot of questions. I hope you get some answers soon and can get things moving along!

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  5. What a big decision. I can't imagine what it's like to make this kind of decision. The Lord knows what he's doing! Prayers for guidance, my friend!

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  6. praying for you and Ross and that whatever decision you make leaves you with a precious baby! Will your insurance cover any of the IVF atleast??

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  7. So many decisions. It is a good thing you have options. Praying for you both.

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  8. This will be one of the hardest decisions that you will have to make. I am in the same boat with IVF and it is hard to realize how much money you are fixing to give up. If you need anyone to talk to we are going through this too. No swimmers and my progesterone levels are low.

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  9. Oh girl, I will be thinking of you over the next few days as you two make this decision. That's not an easy decision, but God has big plans for you two :) it will all work out.

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  10. Prayer, prayers, prayers, but I am SO PROUD of your strength and bravery through this. I know you and Ross will make the best decision for your family!! Love you texas princess!

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  11. Praying for you and your hubby to make the best decision! I can only imagine how hard the last year and a half have been.

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  12. Prayers on the fast track from OH to TX, friend! God works in mysterious ways; you WILL be a mother one day. I'm also extremely proud of you for eliminating the stress from your life and having the courageous to put your story out there for others to read. Your journey will more than likely help others that are in the same difficult situation! Love you!

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