Year three in our marriage has been the best one yet. There's been up's and down's (aren't there always?), but I wouldn't have it any other way. We have grown so much closer in love and faith, and we have accomplished a lot. Two peas in a pod, really.
One thing that made us closer in our third year of marriage was our diagnosis of unexplained infertility. However, there is a happy ending... whether it be now or later. Our God put the desire inside our hearts to make us a mommy and daddy, and He will follow through on that promise. We are currently in the 'two week wait' for our pregnancy results from our first round of IVF. Baby 1 & 2 are already loved so much.
Another lesson that I personally learned in our third year of marriage is that love is a choice. Over the past year, I struggled a lot with security in my relationship. Thankfully, my husband reminded me that we chose to marry each other. We chose to make a life-long commitment by honoring God's word to display a loving marriage. We chose love, despite all circumstances and all temptations that this life brings. We chose each other, and no one can separate that.
Year three has also brought new pet-names. Probably against my husband's desire, the most frequent names that I call him are: Baby Bear and Honey Bee. Sometimes I even mesh them together: Baby bear honey bee.
In the past year, our favorite things to do as a couple have been to binge watch TV series, people-watch at the local country bar, try new foodie places, and workout. Hubby Ross would probably not like it if I told you that we do the Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred together, But, I just spilled the beans.
My husband's clothing style has dramatically changed in the past year, but I am a fan. He likes all things 'daper', if that makes sense. In a way, we've both become a little more high maintenance - him with his clothes, me with my makeup. However, I am confident that once we have bouncing babies around the house, we will have little time to worry about makeup or fancy shoes.
Our third year of marriage has also brought a strengthened faith in our Savior! We made the commitment to go to church weekly and put God first. From doing so, we've been blessed in many aspects of our life. Most notably, we joined a small group within our church made up of loving couples who we can pray for, who can also pray for us. It's been a huge blessing.
We have celebrated a lot of individual accomplishments! My husband left his job at Google (which was a contract position) and accepted a new role at a start-up company, which he loves. One thing about my husband is that he is a very hard-working and dedicated employee. An accomplishment for me is that I've gotten that much closer to finishing my master's degree (yay for December graduation!) and I couldn't do it without the support of my main squeeze.
In year three, we discovered our love languages. My husband prefers to receive love with 'words of affirmation' and I have a preference for 'physical touch.' What is sort of ironic is that we each give love very differently than our preferred receiving method. One goal I have for our fourth year of marriage is to love him how he wants to receive love, and for him to love me how I want to receive it.
Cheers to three years of a special, Godly covenant... cheers to becoming mommys and daddys soon... and cheers to a lifetime of happy memories. I heart October 1st.