Monday, January 26, 2015

The Struggle Is Real

It's so crazy how fertility struggles can completely alter who you are. 

Here lately, I have been reading a lot on social media about women either a) complaining about being pregnant, or b) taking it for granted how easily it came to them. It just kills me. I thought that once I was pregnant myself I could learn to cut those women some slack... but I just can't. The struggle is real, and I firmly believe that those who have experienced any ounce of fertility issues (generally speaking) have a much deeper appreciation than those who have not.

I have no idea if I'm alone or if others feel the same way, but each day that I wake up and feel my baby kick, I count my blessings. I mean... wow... this child is honestly a miracle. I am not promised another day.
Which is why I am going all out for my baby girl. The crib is already put together, her monogram decor has been hung, and my girl's closest is already full of goodies. I am soaking up every.single.moment of this pregnancy. Let's be honest - I think about KG about 23 out of 24 hours in the day. When I think about her or feel her kicking, I see God's love for me over and over again.
I know that there are plenty of women in this world who are currently struggling with fertility issues. Some ladies even keep it to themselves, perhaps out of fear of judgement or any other reason. For those ladies, I want to encourage you! Do not lose hope (that's exactly what the devil wants)! Remember that God put a desire inside your heart to become a mommy for a reason. He is a God of love and mercy and will fulfill that desire in due time. It may hurt now, but the joy that is to come is powerful and will consume your heart. 

18 comments:

  1. I getcha Allison. I havent struggled with fertility per say, we haven't really been "trying" to get pregnant, but I can't stand when girls take their pregnancies for granted and complain the entire time. There are so many beautiful women trying to get pregnant and would do anything to be in their shoes. Still loving the name Kensington! Her nursery is looking good and I hope you're feeling well!

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    1. Thank you! I am feeling great :) God has surely blessed me. And thanks for sharing all of this with me. I am thankful that you can relate to the frustration of girls complaining about their pregnancy, even with you guys not "trying" yet. Praying that God blesses your womb and that you won't ever experience any fertility struggles!

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  2. I was on facebook last week and there is this girl that last year cried on facebook and begged everyone to pray for her and her husband that she could get pregnant after having a miscarriage and such. Now she is pregnant with triplets and complains all the time about how miserable she feels and how she cant wait until they get here and all this. I want to be like how could you forget how badly you wanted to get pregnant in the first place?? I know pregnancy isn't easy, but like you said...one should never take the miracle for granted!!

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  3. I'm so happy for you and your precious miracle. I completely and totally agree with you. It hurts so bad when I read people complaining about their pregnancy and bragging about how they got pregnant "by accident" or "weren't even trying." A girl I went to high school with announced her second (surprise) pregnancy the other day (she has a 6 month old) and hashtagged the picture with #nofertilityissues here. It just killed me to see that, someone bragging about becoming pregnant so easily. I love following your journey, and I can't wait to see you transition into motherhood!

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  4. I really struggle with women complaining about being pregnant too. Especially when they are calling themselves "fat." I realize women don't mean that negatively but YOU ARE GROWING A BABY YOU ARE NOT FAT. I can imagine how this hurts you after all you have been through. It's even hard for me to see.

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  5. I agree with u on all of this! I dislike it when ppl complain but I tell my husband I guess ppl don't know what they have til they go through what we've been through. Its quite sad.

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  6. Kensington is one lucky little lady! What a beautiful gift from God!

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  7. I don't think people understand how unbelievably hard it is to hear them complain about their pregnancy or to want to "give their kids away today"...I tear up every time. Those women don't know just how blessed they are to be in that situation. I would give up SO MUCH to be able to be pregnant.
    Thank you for cherishing this blessing that you have been lucky enough to get. I love reading up on your pregnancy because you are so truly happy with it. That is how EVERYONE should be :) Your little miss is one lucky gal!

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    1. Oh girl... I will say a prayer for you right now. It's just downright annoying whenever women aren't grateful for their pregnancy. It kills a little piece of me whenever I read/see that on social media. I hope you don't lose sight of God's great plan. Keep the hope alive. Remember that your baby's name is already written in the book of life. It's only a matter of time. :)

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  8. I just love your heart for Christ! You are truly inspiring and your journey has been nothing short of amazing. I pray that you continue to give a voice to those that have difficulty in getting pregnant and reaching their dreams of parenthood. I pray that through your story, you touch the hearts and lives of others who struggle with the same or similar issues. You, my friend, are truly amazing and have a heart of gold. Kensington is one blessed little girl to have such a strong mommy!

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  9. So glad you are soaking up every single moment. Although I'm sure there are tough times, I know that I will open those tough times with open arms because I know what I will have went through for them! So happy for you girl!

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  10. Oh my goodness we are twins today. Infertility must have been weighing on our hearts today. You baby girl is so lucky!!! She has a gray mommy with a heart of gold.

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  11. My husband and I have been TTC for over two years and there are moments when I just can't engage in certain conversations. I remind myself to give grace because I'm sure there are things I take for granted that others would give anything to have...it is extremely frustrating though. Blessings to you and your husband on your pregnancy!

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    1. Good for you, girl! You're probably stronger than I was. I found it hard to cut people slack whenever they would complain. May God bless you and your husband and give you a child in His name!!!

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  12. Hi Allison,
    Even though I've only been trying to concieve 11 months, had every test under the sun only to hear there's nothing physically preventing pregnancy, I can't handle women who complain and get pregnant he first month. It has been a battle for me to see every person I know get pregnant quickly. I hope that soon I will recieve my blessing just as you did!! Oh and if one more person gives me the advice to just relax and it'll happen I'll scream!

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    1. Hi Briana! I am so sorry to hear you've been going through some rough patches TTC. Do you mind giving me your email so I can follow up with you that way? I tried to find your blog/email address and couldn't locate it. Thanks! <3

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    2. Hi my email is brianakrider@gmail.com
      Thanks and I look forward to hearing from you

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