Disclaimer: This blog post was inspired by a recent sermon that our church pastor preached on.
If you are currently a wife, or if you ever intend to be a wife, this blog post is just for you. If you think about it, that should cover a large majority of my readers. After all, God loves marriage and it's pleasing in His eyes... so why wouldn't you want to get married?! We know from Proverbs 18:22 that, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord." I don't know about you, but if there's anything that I'm continually working on, it's trying to become the best wife possible.
As we've all experienced, with life comes up's and down's. It's kind of like a seesaw. Seesaws go up and they also go down, but when weight is distributed equally, there is a beautiful balance. The same concept can be applied to a marriage.
There are three questions to ask yourself when considering the seesaw of marriage.
Who is on my seesaw?
Seesaws are meant for two people, and for two people alone. Did you realize that marriages are also only built for two people? Marriages have no room for moms, dads, kids, or pets. My favorite bible verse is Genesis 2:24 (which is also displayed all over our house) which says: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."
Am I having fun on my seesaw?
The point of marriage is to become more holy. But why not enjoy it while you've got it? The last thing that I want is for my husband to think that I nag all the time or that I'm unhappy. Proverbs 27:15-16 is a reminder of that. The verses say: "A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands." Do you want your husband to be annoyed with you? The answer is no. Both you and your husband want a happy and fun marriage.
It's a seesaw; what did I expect?
Everyone has their own expectations of what marriage will look like for them. That makes perfect sense; we all have different models that we've seen play out in our lives. But rather than focus on the expectations that you had for your marriage before you made the commitment, you should focus on the vows that you took. Colossians 3:12-13 reminds us of those vows. Remember when you said, "in sickness and in health"? Or "for richer or poorer"? This verse in Colossians says, "Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." I promised to love my husband for better or worse, that that's what I intend to do.